Alone?

Dear My Perspective,

Is it better to be alone, than to be "friends" with people, that bully you? It is hard making friends. I try to be me, and people walk all over me. Its also no fun being alone. Either way I feel miserable.

Signed
Loner

Dear Loner,

It is a good idea to learn how to be alone. It can in fact be fun being alone. Some people are Introverts, meaning they do not need people to have a good time. Then you have Extroverts, who need people to have a good time. Most people are extroverted. But being an extrovert can come with some problems. One of them is being alone. Extroverts often do not practice at being alone, so when they are forced into being alone, its hard to cope, because for so long, they always had others to help fulfill enjoyment.

In your case it seems like not only is it hard for you to be alone, but you also lack the people you need to at least have fun. In your case, you are better off alone. At least you can learn to enjoy being by yourself, but you can't force people who mistreat you to treat you right.

You can still search for new friends, but it also helps to have steady ground in being alone. Being afraid of being alone, will cause you to deplete any new friends you make of energy. Remember, not everyone wants to spend all free time with you.