Acceptance

Dear My Perspective,

One of the hardest things in life is being accepted. Anything about you, can be and usually is, used against you. I often feel isolated. I want to be more happy, but nothing I do pleases people. I have changed things about myself all the time, but it only gets me dirty looks. I want to be accepted, but I'm not sure what to do. Any advice?

Signed,
Rejected

Dear Rejected,

The world tells us we need to belong to feel good about ourselves, which makes it hard for those that do not fit in the box. In order to be accepted, first you must ask yourself who it is you want accepting you. You must learn to love who you are. If people don't like who you are, changing yourself more than likely won't change anything. In fact, changing who you are, is often a sign of weakness. When you change yourself to get them to like you, they often see they can take advantage of you, as you are willing to do anything to be accepted. In the end, you end up miserable because you are not staying true to you, and you still end up not being accepted by a group.

Most people want to be apart of that most envied popular group. They want to be apart of that elite group. Its a natural feeling, we all want it. But a popular group is only as popular as you are willing to make it out to be.

Become okay with yourself. People want to know who you are and what you are. Its hard to accept someone they feel is not legit.