Taking sides

Dear MyPerspective,

So I have 3 other roommates besides myself. At first me and this one girl (I will call her Jane Doe) got along. We would hang out in her room, (our suite is set up with 4 rooms and a bathroom). We somewhat talked to another roommate (whom I'll call Mystery Girl) and then there was the snotty stuck up 4th roommate (whom I'll call Wicked). At first the 3 of us were united against Wicked and we would talk about her. But something happened. Somehow Wicked became part of the group and I was shoved out. Now I am harassed by all 3 of them, and accused of so many things. I refuse to move out of my dorm room on grounds that I will not let them think they can win and hurt me. But why did they do this? Any advice in general?

Signed,
Isolated


Dear Isolated,

It sounds like you are experiencing karma. You were on the winning side, it felt nice to have a common bond with 2 of your roommates. But it came back to bite you. Now you are on the losing side. This is why you don't take sides. You should not express a negative opinion about another person because you never know how tight they may be behind your back. If you can't say it to their face, then just don't say it at all. Its okay to try to stick it out and stand strong and not let them control you, but be careful, you never know what sleazy people may be capable of.