Disrespectful Roommates

Dear My Perspective,

Ugh, my roommates are horrible people!!! You see I live in the dorms on campus in a suite style setting. This means me and my 3 roommates each have a room of our own, and we share a bathroom. Well one of my roommates is extremely melodramatic and is also disrespectful. It has gotten to the point where I do not want the likes of her speaking to me period. We have already sought help as an entire room from the RA and the Reslife coordinator, but all they could do is make rules and essentially reiterate what I was saying about not speaking to my stupid roommate. Is there anything else I should do about this? I feel I should not have to move out just because I have hateful roommates.

Signed
Lone-Wolf

Dear Lone-Wolf,

I know that experience of bad roommates all too well myself. That is the disadvantage to living in dorms, you have to live with strangers that you otherwise would never have anything to do with in your entire life.

But you lucked out in one way, you have your own room even if you have to share the suite itself. Of course nothing beats 100% privacy, but what can you do? Well next year you could spring for the expensive single apartment if its offered on campus or just commute to school. But this year you are stuck living on campus. You have 7 months with these people. If these people look for fights or are just mean people in general, the best thing for you to do is to do what you are already doing, and thats kick them out of your life.

Only you know what people should be in your life at all and who shouldn't. There is no point in pretending or trying to get along with someone who pretty much refuses to get along with you. If you don't have to speak to each other there is absolutely no reason to speak to each other. Just do your own thing.

Will it get tough at times? Yes its not going to be easy especially if all your roommates are friends with each other. But you have to do whats best for YOU. Unless you are willing to do a room change, you are stuck with these people for 7 more months, its going to test your nerves big time.