Trust

Dear My Perspective,

My boyfriend cheated on me in the past. I took him back because I really cared for him, he is my first love. Except I have major trust issues, it annoys him. He tells me, that I should trust him. I tell them that its hard to when your trust is gone. Everyone says I should break up with him. He says, that if I can't learn to trust him, then our relationship is pointless. I don't know who is right, or what is right. Any advice?

Signed
Cheated in Love

Dear Cheated in Love,

Being cheated on is hard. Often, we as women take the men back, because we love the feeling of love, which is why often women are blamed more than the guy in an illicit affair, its because we don't want to give up the feeling of love, fake or real.

But trust is an issue. Trust is like a mirror. When a mirror is broken, one can put all the pieces back together....but the mirror never looks the same. You will always see the cracks and little smaller pieces stay missing. With trust, once its been broken, you can do whatever you can but the trust won't be like it was before it was broken.

Your boyfriend has a point. If you can't trust him, then you probably shouldn't be with him. You are hanging onto an idea of love, that just doesn't exist. In fact, more than likely that is why you took him back, most take the guy back because they love the idea of love, and not so much the person they are with.