Love Stinks.

Dear My Perspective,

Love stinks! I am in my 20s, and I have NEVER been in a relationship. Every guy I have asked out, has said no. I am into guys that are sexy and even guys that are simply geeky. But even the geeky guys think they are too good for me. The only guys that give me attention are the sleazy type. One dude asked me out, after asking out all my friends who said no, he had a creepy nature to him. It hurts, deep down I know love probably won't happen for me. People keep telling me to have hope, but these same people don't understand my situation, for them, they have all been in love several times. I want to know how to deal with this pain....I just don't know what to do. Please help me.

Signed,
Loveless

Dear Loveless,

The most painful thing about love, is not having it. Society has turned love into something that one needs to complete their life. Only less than 100 years ago, marriage was only encouraged for financial reasons, not so much about love, in fact, some countries still have arranged marriages.

It can be painful and discouraging being told no, by every type of guy out there. But do not settle for someone you don't have feelings for.

Do not settle because you being alone is worse. You do not want to lead someone you don't care for on, and you don't want to settle for someone who is a sleazy jerk either.

Its best to just accept that you may end up alone. Find happiness in being by yourself. You will never be able to make the pain fully stop. All you can do is adapt with it. What makes being alone and not having love so much harder is seeing everyone all lovey dovey. Its impossible to avoid it. Become comfortable with yourself. Make a list of reasons, dating isn't as great as it appears.

Keeping yourself busy is not a great idea, its only a temporary solution, in the end, you will have to face those emotions and work on them. The hardest part isn't accepting the dark reality, the hardest part is having to live in it everday.